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This may seem odd coming from someone who works around music all day. I enjoy silence. Complete silence. I love to be alone. I don’t like extra noise. Sometimes I drive in complete silence.

I don’t watch the news (almost a decade of that bliss) and rarely watch tv. My family makes fun of me because I don’t know how to even use the remote to turn on the tv. There are a few shows I watch now that the spouse bought me a dummy remote that has like 4 buttons. Admittedly, he was sick of teaching me how to use the regular one. No lie. When the family is watching sports, I remove myself from the room and get other things done. I will watch a movie with them at times, but mostly, it is not my favorite thing. My mood instantly darkens when I hear a tv on in the background.

I’d rather read than have useless noise. I have read 738 books in the past 5 years.

We are a world addicted to stimulation and noise. People can’t enjoy a dinner without looking at their phones. They can’t even watch tv without their phone near them or even using them WHILE watching a show. This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. HUGE. I have worked very hard over the past few years to improve in this category, which makes me hyper aware of everyone else’s behavior.

I love being with people, but ME time is a priority. The spouse takes the kids to Florida every year and he knows it’s my favorite thing ever. For that time, not one sound is on in this house….not the tv, not the washing machine, not the dishwasher….nothing.

It’s really sad to me when people can’t be alone and ALWAYS have to have friends or a partner around.

People jump from one relationship to the next, always have to have someone, always need noise in their ear.

People don’t want the down time to reflect on what they need to clean up in their life.

Where silence freaks people out, it is euphoric to me; complete and utter bliss.

Try it.

Be still in your mind.

Get clear on what you want.

Listen to your soul.

Heal your stuff. And remember…

You can’t give to others what you don’t have.